Emotional Intelligence for Disciple Makers

Ep.358 – Run With Horses Podcast – Emotional Intelligence for Disciple Makers

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Part 1:Emotional Intelligence for Disciple Makers

1. Introduction

• Introduce the concept of Emotional Intelligence (EI) and its relevance in the Christian life, particularly in leadership and discipleship.

2. What is Emotional Intelligence?

• Definition of Emotional Intelligence:
  Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand, and manage our own emotions and the emotions of others. It involves four key components:

  • Self-awareness: Recognizing one's emotions and their impact.

  • Self-control: Managing and controlling one's emotional responses.

  • Empathy: Understanding the emotions of others and responding appropriately.

  • Compassion: The desire to help

  • Social skills: Building relationships and communicating effectively.

  Example:

  • Self-awareness: A disciple maker who can recognize their frustration with a fellow believer and chooses to address it in a godly manner rather than reacting impulsively.

  • Empathy: Listening attentively to someone in pain, offering comfort as Christ would, instead of offering quick solutions or judgments.

• Biblical Example of Emotional Intelligence:

  • Jesus’ Emotional Intelligence: Jesus exhibited all four aspects of EI.

    • Self-awareness and Self-regulation: In Mark 14:34–36, Jesus shows emotional vulnerability, yet chooses God's will over His feelings.

      Mark 14: 32

    • Empathy, Compassion and Social Skills: Jesus empathized with people, showing compassion. In John 11:33–36, He wept with Mary and Martha at the death of Lazarus, showing deep emotional connection and compassion.

3. Why is Emotional Intelligence Important for Christians?

• Discipleship and Emotional Intelligence:

  • Emotional intelligence helps disciple makers understand the emotional state and needs of others. Effective disciple making requires patience, compassion, and the ability to manage one's own emotions.

  • Biblical Foundation:

    • Ephesians 4:2-3 –

      • This passage emphasizes emotional control (lowliness, gentleness) and empathy (bearing with one another).

  • Developing Relationships with Others: Jesus’ ministry was deeply relational, and He connected emotionally with people.

    • Matthew 9:36 –

    • Jesus ability to understand and connect was key to His effective ministry and discipleship.

• Practical Application for the Church:

  • Proverbs 15:1 –

  • Galatians 6:2 –

4. Thinking Deeply

• Reflect on:

  • A time when they experienced emotional stress in ministry or discipleship.

  • How emotional intelligence (or lack thereof) impacted the outcome.

 

 

Part 2: Developing Emotional Intelligence for Disciple Makers

1. Recap

• Briefly recap the key points

2. Deep Dive: How to Develop Emotional Intelligence

• Self-awareness and Self-control:

  • James 1:19 –

    • Practice slowing down our reactions and reflecting before responding. Teach that self-awareness is about recognizing triggers and the emotions behind them.

    • Learn to listen WELL.

  • Psalm 139:23-24 –

    • Develop self-awareness through prayer, asking God to reveal any emotional blind spots.

  • Self-control through Scripture:

    • Galatians 5:22-23 –

      • Spiritual growth is the foundation of developing emotional intelligence.

      • These virtues align with the emotional self-control we need as Christians. Developing the fruit of the Spirit is key to emotional stability.

• Empathy:

  • Romans 12:15 –

    • Empathy requires actively engaging with others’ emotions, whether in joy or sorrow.

  • Philippians 2:4 –

    • Developing empathy requires intentionality—seeing and caring about others deeply.

    • Pause and ask yourself about the emotional state of other people. Consider WHY they feel they way they do. Seek Understanding.

• Social Skills:

  • Colossians 3:12-14 –

    • Social skills are rooted in humility and kindness, and effective communication flows out of a heart that is filled with love. Listen to understand!

    • Spend time with people. Look for opportunities to develop deep and lasting relationships. Put their interests first!

• Practical Strategies for Developing EI:

  • Daily Reflection and Prayer: Incorporate a time of self-reflection each day to assess your emotional responses and ask the Holy Spirit for help.

  • Consider journaling your thoughts and addressing the way you responded to people throughout the day. Ask yourself if you could have responded in a way that better exhibits the fruit of the spirit.

  • Active Listening: Practice listening without responding immediately, making sure to validate the emotions of others. Learn to ask clarifying questions.

  • Accountability Partnerships: Form small groups or one-on-one accountability relationships to help one another grow in emotional maturity.

 

 

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