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Opportunities in Marriage

Opportunities in Marriage;
Spiritual growth-- difficult circumstances provide motivation for growth; points out need for it!-- Example to spouse, encourages them to grow, too.-- Provides chances to practice trusting God, obedience-- Points out spiritual truth every day. Not about me. God-centered relationship needed
Service-- Serve spouse-- Practice sacrificial giving, humility-- Considering others better than yourself-- Learn to take responsibility
Disciple making-- Practice discipling (spouse, children) before trying it out on other people-- Opportunity to live every day with someone else’s spiritual interest in mind
Support, Barnabus-- Sounding board-- Accountability-- Sharing lessons-- Serve together; not alone
Help in time of need-- Shares your burden-- Face challenges/trials together-- Someone who prays for you knowledgeably
 

Disciple Making Goals for 2023 - Do you have some?

Disciple Making Goals for 2023
 
Do you have a Paul, Barnabas and Timothy?
- Evaluate yourself, are you growing? What would help you grow this year? Are you ready to take on a challenge?
- Who do you know that might be willing to serve with you in ministry, committing to grow together?
- Are there people in your church family you could encourage and challenge in their spiritual walk this year? Who will you be discipling in 2023?
 
How do you identify someone to work with?
- F.A.T. - Faithful, Available and Teachable
- Who has time? Who is showing the motivation to learn and grow?
 
What are the tools and resources you need?
- Do you have topics identified to invest time in learning more about?
 
What do you do with someone you are discipling?
- Relational time together
- Prayer together
- Read the bible together
- Look for opportunities to serve together
 
Will you commit to looking for those around you who are spiritually minded and invest in them for the glory of God?
You will grow more than those you disciple!
 

Looking back over a year of Run With Horses

The Smith Family reflects over almost a year of Run With Horses!

New Years Resolutions for Your Marriage!

New Years Resolutions to Improve Your Marriage relationship
What? How do we normally view resolutions. How is this different?
What are changes you can make in the next year to improve things?Recognize an area that could use growth/change
Why?Ideas of growth need areas:1. communication2. personal spiritual growth – let this be a connection point; communicate about this. Dealing with anxiety, fear, weak areas Dealing with sin issues: anger, responding wrongly, bitterness, grudges3. invest in each other’s spiritual lives4. time together (quantity, quality)5. forgiveness
How to?  SMART goals S pecific M easurable A chievable R Relevant T imeframe
Specific examples. Clear goal you’re shooting for. Specific steps toward reaching the goal.
 
 

Excerpts from Our Books! Merry Christmas!

Christmas Traditions and What Really Matters

The Smith Family has a special round table to discuss Christmas traditions and why Christmas matters.

Owned by Our Possessions

Our Possessions Own Us!
We always ask kids at Christmas, “What do you want for Christmas?” We set them up from early on to desire stuff!
We let our stuff define us, weigh us down, hold us back, cause us stress, drive us insane, cause us worry, dissatisfy us (in a quest for more), and divide our attention from what’s really important in life. It’s deceptive!
What place does stuff have in our life?
What affects your view of possessions?-- Your family background (had money or not)-- Your friends-- Your financial situation
What place should it have?
Why do we have Stuff?
Why is it important?
Can’t serve God and money. -- Matthew 6:24Parable of man who tore down barns to build bigger ones, not knowing he would die that day.The life consists of more than what a man owns. -- Luke 12:15
Stuff causes fights – 1 Corinthians 6:1, 7 Why not rather suffer wrong? Be defrauded?Stuff causes greed and covetousnessStuff causes anxiety – someone might steal; I might lose it. Mt. 6:19-20Stuff steals our focus. Mt. 6:21 Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.We worry about a lack of stuff in the future. (What will we wear? Eat? Mt. 6:25ff)
Stewardship vs. priority
What’s the reason for having stuff?When is enough enough?Why do we compare our stuff with that of others?What drives us to buy more?Why do we let stuff become so important to us, when we can’t take any of it with us when we die?
It’s so easy to acquire more things; and it’s so difficult to get rid of things. It’s so easy to acquire bad habits/sins; and it’s so difficult to get rid of them and replace with good.
If possessions have a high place in your life, they compete with God for your highest priority. We make decisions based on protecting our things instead of honoring God.
How do we change?
ID right attitude towards things/ possessions. Heart’s desires. Must desire God first.
Give your stuff to God.
Find people who deal well with their stuff/money. Spend time learning from them.

To Spank or Not to Spank, That is the Question of the Day!

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Today's Listener Question:"I have a question! This is related, I believe, to all three areas of your podcast, Biblical Discipleship, a Healthy Marriage, and a Godly Family. What do you believe the Bible says about spankings, both in the Old and New Testaments? Should we or shouldn't we based on what we read in the Scriptures? At my stage in life, I do not think I need to ponder how, though I am wondering if we should and what are the implications (theological, mental, cultural) of physical discipline of one's children. What are your thoughts?" - from email
corporal punishment -noun: punishment that involves hitting someone : physical punishment
A corporal punishment or a physical punishment is a punishment which is intended to cause physical pain to a person.  - No! No! No!
Problems: 1. Punishment – this is not a biblical goal for parents. Punishment does not equal correction. Many people equate the two, Do NOT punish your children!2. Intended to cause pain – again, this is not the purpose or intention of any biblical parent! The purpose of biblical parenting is shepherding a child’s heart toward Jesus. For example, the slight emotional pain of being deprived of a toy only helps with focus and communicating the seriousness of the correction, the purpose is not to cause pain, but to encourage heart change.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends healthy forms of discipline, such as positive reinforcement of appropriate behaviors, limit setting, redirecting, and setting future expectations. The AAP recommends that parents do not use spanking, hitting, slapping, threatening, insulting, humiliating, or shaming. - https://www.verywellfamily.com/facts-about-corporal-punishment-1094806, (accessed 12/15/2022)
Criticism of CP:1. It Makes Behavior Worse -can cause aggression in future2. It Is Ineffective – no better than a time out3. It Hurts Relationships – particularly between parent and child4. It Is Linked to Mental Illness – depression, anxiety, etc
“Discipline shouldn't be about controlling kids. Instead, it should be about teaching them to control themselves. As a result, it is best to use strategies that will help your children learn from their mistakes while also cultivating better decision-making skills. “ (cited above)
Proverbs 23:13-14 KJV13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest (discipline) him with the rod, he shall not die.14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
Proverbs 13:24 
Proverbs 29:15 
Proverbs 19:18
Proverbs 22:15 
Ephesians 6:4 
Keys to Correction1. Your attitudeYou can NOT correct your child properly if YOU are angry.
2. God’s Word is the Foundation. He is the ultimate judge and one we obey.  Point your child to what God has to say about their behavior, but more importantly, their heart.
3. Child’s attitudeYou are correcting a heart condition. Help your child see their own heart and motives for behavior.Pray with them and for them.
4. Correction should be matched to the child and their needs, there is no universal “method” that works with all children at all stages of their spiritual, emotional, intellectual and physical growth. MOST children can probably be corrected without spanking or other physical means most of the time. But it is more difficult, and there are some children who will be almost impossible to reach without serious effort if those tools are removed.
5. Consistency is King. Yes means Yes and No means No. ALL THE TIME! Consistency from an early age means less effort is required later, when children’s rebellion is more difficult to handle. Let your children learn that you always mean what you say while they are young and DO NOT change that. If you must error, err toward Yes. Protect your NO. It has to mean something.
6. If the parents do not agree or have different rules, all parenting for both parents is more challenging than it is supposed to be. Talk about and agree on the rules you will enforce. You weaken your spouses role in the home if you don’t back them up. Kids will play parents off of each other and try to manipulate you. Stick together!
7. Time with your children, playing, talking, working, serving, etc will make parenting easier. The better you know your children the better you are able to shepherd them toward Jesus.

Discipling Your Children PART 3

Moving Tips From The Smith Family!

Moving Tips from Norman and Susan
After 24 years as missionaries, 4 years of prefield and 20 years in Japan, we have had a lot of experience with moving! Here are a few tips and tricks we have picked up on the way.
Make a list – stuff you need to do before leaving
Set short goals – “I will sort/pack until 4 PM today.” Gives you a sense of accomplishment and focused purpose. After that time, you can relax. 
Wear old clothes you hate the final day before leaving. Throw them away instead of taking dirty clothes! If you have other old stuff, wear that, too, so you can toss it along the way. (2-day drive)
Think through your itinerary. (Leave Grandma’s; visit supporting church; drive half-way to AL; drive rest of the way.) Pack stuff deep that you don’t need.
Clean out your car before packing day.
Pack small bags to fit in the car. Remember spaces under seats.
Vacuum-sealed bags are great, but they get heavy fast. Cause suitcase (cartop) get heavy!
Soft bags pack space easier than hard ones (boxes).
Plan your clothes carefully, to be used multi-purposefully (Sunday pants turned travel)
Make sure everyone has stuff to do on long trips. Kindles, audio books, etc.
Have snacks (granola bars, cereal bars, trail mix, thermos of water). Cheaper!
Stopping every 2 hours is better than going longer during stops. You feel better.
Going overseas, have a library card from overseas to borrow e-books. Especially for kids!
If you are stressed, your family will be stressed. Try to find ways to relax together.
If moving from house, if you can sleep elsewhere for even a week before moving, it’s hugely helpful. Don’t cook, either. Order in, eat out, etc, to save Mom’s nerves!
Other people helping is not always helpful.